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Apparently it is questionable for me to look the way that I look and have a “Black” grandfather.

Yesterday, my husband and I went to visit with my grandpa.  As we were pulling up there were two black men, a black woman, and a little black girl in his driveway. The three adults were standing around talking to him, while the little girl was playing with his dogs through the fence. I began backing up into the driveway when one of the men asked if I was lost and needed directions. I am sure my face said it ALL! I told the man that I was in the right place and here to see my grandpa. The man reported to my grandpa that I was there to see him, as if he needed to report that to someone. My husband and I were so confused. Here you have four complete strangers making us feel like visitors at our second home. We parked and finally got out of the car and routinely I go hug and kiss my grandpa and these PEOPLE are still looking shocked. For a second I thought maybe my grandpa knew these people. lol

My grandpa announced how happy he was to have his granddaughter come and visit him. One man spoke up and said “Is he really your grandpa?” … “Ummmm, yeah!” I was thinking who lies about that??? I explained to him, “Yes, he is my grandpa. My mother’s dad, to be specific.” “My mother is black and my mom is white.” The man proceeds to question me about my race. “So are you white or black?”, he asked. Still drowning in confusion, I looked at my grandpa and laughed while I answered his question. “I consider myself being both, white and black.” The man goes on… “Oh, so you can be white one day and black another?”

At this point I am just wondering, “why all the questions?” “What does it matter?” and quite frankly, “Who cares?” I could not believe how interested this man was in questioning my race!

I mentioned somehow in conversation about my husband, and the man even had something to say about my husband being black. Is it really that amazing and interesting that two people of different races marry and live happily ever after together. It’s 2013 “WHAT’S THE BIG DEAL?” Love knows no color.

The people kept conversing with my grandpa. Not once did they even tell us who they were. After they left, I asked my grandpa if he even knew the people or had at least saw them before and he knew just as much about them as we did. lol

Apparently the were interested in an abandoned house that is directly across the street from my grandpa. So, I guess my grandpa was the victim for conversation since he just so happened to be outside when they were checking the house across the street out. They probably wanted to ask some questions about previous owners and that kind of stuff. Nine times out of ten, my grandpa being the nosey person he is saw people snooping around across the street and he went outside to find out what they were doing. lol

The moral of my story/experience:  “Why does society attempt to bully mixed individuals into picking and choosing one race over another? ”  I simply can not imagine one dropping myself with either race, white or black. That would involve completely disregarding one of my parents. There’s no way I could be comfortable with myself by doing that. It really saddens me when I discuss with other biracial individuals and they one drop themselves, all based on societies perception of them. Simply because one’s skin may be darker, resulting in looking more black than white. People then identify with whatever society classifies them as. For example, our president. “The first black president?” or, “The First Biracial President?”

Wake up on this issue people and stop falling into societies black hole of ignorance!

TTYL,

Erica

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I am bringing my break from blogging to an end. I really have missed blogging about racially impacting events and topic. Over the past several months, I needed to take time out. Now, I am back and ready to get back to what I enjoy the most, blogging. I really have missed the Biracial community.

One of the reasons why I became uninspired to blog was because of the absence of Mulatto Diaries, Tiffany Jones in our Biracial Community. It was because of Tiffany Jones, that I jumped in to voice my opinion of growing up as a biracial individual. Since Tiffany has been absent on her youtube channel and blog for Mulatto Diaries, I grew uninspired. I really enjoyed watching and reading her delightful incities on various topics. 

I hope that Tiffany Jones comes back to the Biracial Community and gets back to blogging and uploading videos. Until then, I will try my best to post an update or article once or twice a week to begin with. Striving for a daily post a day, if school permits. I have to manage my time wisely and devote dedication where it is needed. 

Look forward to a new post soon. (: 

– Erica, xo 

Suggestions?

E-mail me any suggestions of a topic to be discussed or blogged about. (xbiracialxbeautyx@gmail.com)

P.S. follow my personal twitter for updates:   @EricaJoann 

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Growing up I always felt like no one understood me or could to relate to me. I had one friend that I met that was also biracial but I felt that it was still something that separated us. In my opinion she identifies more with her black side, unlike me who feels like I am equally both black and white. It was hard not having someone who could share the same experiences with you. During the time I began blogging there weren’t many sites for biracials to share and speak out on their experience.

I reached an epiphany when I discovered Tiffany Jones youtube channel and wordpress blog, Mulatto Diaries. For once I found a stranger who shared the same experience and had some of the same feelings toward racial issues as me. Watching her videos made me feel like she was a friend to me. Someone who spoke up and spoke out to those biracial individuals with no voice. At the time and even now the resources available for biracials are limited. The biracial community is small. I encourage others to create a blog of sort to speak out to others. I remember feeling lonely as if no one shared the same Biracial experiences with me until finding Tiffany Jones vlogs & blog. The small and limited biracial community encouraged me to write because I wanted to leave footprints on the internet for young biracials that may feel lost and alone. I write down my opinions and personal experience so the lost ones can feel found.

Through personal growth I have come to realize that despite culture and races separating us we are more alike than ever. As different as we all may feel, we are alike. We are human. We eat, sleep, cry, smile and breathe all the same.

Until next time . . .

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Since reading Heidi Durrow’s novel, “The Girl Who Fell From The Sky” last year I have felt so lost. The book grasped me by my heart and captivated me. It was dreadful when i came to read the last page, all because the journey Heidi Durrow took me on had came to an end. The novel was amazing and so beuatifully written. I often find myself rereading it over and over again. The story never gets old to me. You know when a book is good when you feel like you are the main character when reading.

I am looking forward to reading more books from Heidi Durrow. The story she told in “The Girl Who Fell From The Sky” was so rich and filled with reality. I can guarentee that you will fall in love with the story and the characters. If you have not already read her novel, I HIGHLY suggest that you get your hands on a copy.

 

Purchase a copy? http://heidiwdurrow.com/book-buy/

Until next time. . .

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Racial identity in my opinion is classified by how you look, feel and where you fit in. Is it right to acknowledge one race over another just because of their appearance? Is it acceptable for society to label you and classify your race based on the color of your skin? It is discrimination in societies form.

Your identity is important and you should not be pressured by society to pick and choose how you want to be identified.

 

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Chemically treated hair can damage biracial hair. Speaking from experience a perm was accidently put into my hair and damaged my hair for about three year. When damage is caused from a perm you have to wait until the perm grows out which is a long transitioning process. A perm is not for fine or thin hair in my opinion. Keep in mind that chemically treated hair can cause hair damage such as split ends and can cause breakage.

Parents have gone with the approach of chemically treating their biracial child’s hair with the misconception of:  “this will make my morning easier”. Chemically treated hair does not make doing your child’s hair easier. In reality a perm requires more maintenance than wearing your hair natural.

If you approach is natural hair care I HIGHLY Recommend:  “Mixed Chicks Hair Products”.

Mixed Chicks Hair Products was created by two mixed chicks. Who better to know what biracial hair needs other than a mixed chick? I struggled for years bouncing from product to product trying to find one that works with my curly hair. I have been scammed into using Pantene,  Garnier Fructis, Tresemme, Herbal Essences and Sun silk, trying out all of their products for curly hair. None of their products left my hair healthy! They always dried my hair out, which is a big NO… NO!

Mixed Chicks has a line of products to meet every Biracial hair care need. I have been using their products for some years now consistently! My hair has grown more in the past few years than in my whole life. I use the Mixed chicks shampoo, deep conditioner, leave in conditioner and hair serum. If you want to go natural . . . go with Mixed Chicks as your hair products.

Mixed Chicks:  http://www.mixedchicks.net/

–TIPS– 

  1. Condition hair often concentrating on the ends.
  2. Limit shampooing to once every 7 days, simply concentrating on the scalp.
  3. ONLY comb curly hair when wet, using a wide tooth comb.
  4. Air Drying (Recommended)
  5. Use a leave in conditioner daily

BEWARE products containing:  Alcohol, Mineral Oil and Petroleum.

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Blogging Family,

Here is an update:  I didn’t get my flu shot this year so obviously with my luck I did catch the flu. It was the worst couple of weeks of my life! =/ On top of that afterwards I caught a little common cold. I am feeling better now. I can guarantee that I will make it a priority to get my flu shot each year!

I hope you all have been doing well. I have been a bit discouraged since Biracial Tiffany doesn’t make videos or update her blog Mulatto Diaries anymore. It’s a bit depressing. I really enjoy reading others blogs about the Biracial and mixed experience. If you know of any blogs for me to check out, feel free to comment below with a link.

 

Hopefully with this new year approaching I will get the courage to start making videos for my youtube channel. Otherwise my new year resolution is to set some time out for myself so i can tend to my blog. (: I am sure my readers would like that.

What is your new year resolution?

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