Taking race into consideration in all accounts, because it is impossible not to take it into consideration. If the variables changed, would the outcome of this controversial case had been different? Would justice had been served?
Apparently it is questionable for me to look the way that I look and have a “Black” grandfather.
Yesterday, my husband and I went to visit with my grandpa. As we were pulling up there were two black men, a black woman, and a little black girl in his driveway. The three adults were standing around talking to him, while the little girl was playing with his dogs through the fence. I began backing up into the driveway when one of the men asked if I was lost and needed directions. I am sure my face said it ALL! I told the man that I was in the right place and here to see my grandpa. The man reported to my grandpa that I was there to see him, as if he needed to report that to someone. My husband and I were so confused. Here you have four complete strangers making us feel like visitors at our second home. We parked and finally got out of the car and routinely I go hug and kiss my grandpa and these PEOPLE are still looking shocked. For a second I thought maybe my grandpa knew these people. lol
My grandpa announced how happy he was to have his granddaughter come and visit him. One man spoke up and said “Is he really your grandpa?” … “Ummmm, yeah!” I was thinking who lies about that??? I explained to him, “Yes, he is my grandpa. My mother’s dad, to be specific.” “My mother is black and my mom is white.” The man proceeds to question me about my race. “So are you white or black?”, he asked. Still drowning in confusion, I looked at my grandpa and laughed while I answered his question. “I consider myself being both, white and black.” The man goes on… “Oh, so you can be white one day and black another?”
At this point I am just wondering, “why all the questions?” “What does it matter?” and quite frankly, “Who cares?” I could not believe how interested this man was in questioning my race!
I mentioned somehow in conversation about my husband, and the man even had something to say about my husband being black. Is it really that amazing and interesting that two people of different races marry and live happily ever after together. It’s 2013 “WHAT’S THE BIG DEAL?” Love knows no color.
The people kept conversing with my grandpa. Not once did they even tell us who they were. After they left, I asked my grandpa if he even knew the people or had at least saw them before and he knew just as much about them as we did. lol
Apparently the were interested in an abandoned house that is directly across the street from my grandpa. So, I guess my grandpa was the victim for conversation since he just so happened to be outside when they were checking the house across the street out. They probably wanted to ask some questions about previous owners and that kind of stuff. Nine times out of ten, my grandpa being the nosey person he is saw people snooping around across the street and he went outside to find out what they were doing. lol
The moral of my story/experience: “Why does society attempt to bully mixed individuals into picking and choosing one race over another? ” I simply can not imagine one dropping myself with either race, white or black. That would involve completely disregarding one of my parents. There’s no way I could be comfortable with myself by doing that. It really saddens me when I discuss with other biracial individuals and they one drop themselves, all based on societies perception of them. Simply because one’s skin may be darker, resulting in looking more black than white. People then identify with whatever society classifies them as. For example, our president. “The first black president?” or, “The First Biracial President?”
Wake up on this issue people and stop falling into societies black hole of ignorance!
Officer, what did we do wrong?
Citizens use to look to law enforcement for a sense of security. Have times changed? In most recent years there has been a rapid increase in racial profiling by law enforcement officials.
Being married to an African- American male and being Biracial, myself, my husband and I have had our share of experiences. Living near the Nations capital, in a predominately African-American area, all African-Americans are racially profiled.
Law Enforcement officers look for African-American males, driving with tinted windows as a target for “suspected” thugs. They racially profile African-American men, based on those two key details.
My husband and I were out riding around back in March, when we got pulled over. Back up was called. I suppose we looked suspicious, a young “black” male, “white” female, tinted windows?? We were questioned about our relationship. Once the officers were informed that we were husband and wife, they were surprised. Not once did they mention anything about my husbands tint being too dark. The only petty thing they could say that their reason for pulling us over with was for a random traffic stop and because we didn’t have tags on the front of our car. Only recently our state has been enforcing the requirement of front plates.
Was it probable cause for us to be pulled over because of race? Did the officers believe that they would of found more fault in us, other than not having front plates?
Is it that strange or unbelievable that two people can be married of the opposite race?
Racial Profiling MUST end!
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Internet dating is fertile territory for people who study social patterns. Belinda Robnett and Cynthia Feliciano studied racial exclusion patterns in the Journal Social Forces. They looked at over 6000 internet dating profiles and found that whites are least open to dating outside their group, with Asians and Latinos close behind. Asian males and black females are more highly excluded than their opposite sex counterparts.
Please leave your comment below on your opinion. Are Whites, Asians, and Latinos least open to dating outside their group? Is there a cultural indifference that has enforced this statistic or is this a racial stereotype in your opinion?
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Glenn asked me a question yesterday and I really think I should share it with my readers; it really sparked a conversation between us. (see below)
getgln: Speaking about laws, do you think the U.S. government should be asking our “race-ethnicity” on the census and school applications?
Biraciality: No, it’s completely irrelevant.
Instead of focusing on who is of which race, the Government should look beyond that at more important factors.
My personal opinion is that the Government’s concern is keeping ‘tabs’ on the population of the races. Of course, it is stated that the information is used for special funding for certain programs and advantages. I completely support the proposal; yet, i do not believe that, that is the only reason why we are asked to specify our race.
getgln: Amen my sister. The U.S. (and Germany) has a history of using race data against their population. In the U.S. during WWII rounding up Japanese to put them in internment camps. At other times the U.S. has dabbled in eugenics.
If I started my own country I would not ask people’s “race”-ethnicity, just the way it has been illegal in France for the government to ask about race since 1798.
Check out Glenn’s Youtube video on, “Why is color on the U.S. Census?”
Thinking . . .
After all these years, why is [“other”] an option on the U.S. Cenus? The only “other” option left to be specified is Biracial/Multi-Racial individuals.
I would prefer to be labeled as Biracial or Multi-Racial; if I am going to be labeled.