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Apparently it is questionable for me to look the way that I look and have a “Black” grandfather.

Yesterday, my husband and I went to visit with my grandpa.  As we were pulling up there were two black men, a black woman, and a little black girl in his driveway. The three adults were standing around talking to him, while the little girl was playing with his dogs through the fence. I began backing up into the driveway when one of the men asked if I was lost and needed directions. I am sure my face said it ALL! I told the man that I was in the right place and here to see my grandpa. The man reported to my grandpa that I was there to see him, as if he needed to report that to someone. My husband and I were so confused. Here you have four complete strangers making us feel like visitors at our second home. We parked and finally got out of the car and routinely I go hug and kiss my grandpa and these PEOPLE are still looking shocked. For a second I thought maybe my grandpa knew these people. lol

My grandpa announced how happy he was to have his granddaughter come and visit him. One man spoke up and said “Is he really your grandpa?” … “Ummmm, yeah!” I was thinking who lies about that??? I explained to him, “Yes, he is my grandpa. My mother’s dad, to be specific.” “My mother is black and my mom is white.” The man proceeds to question me about my race. “So are you white or black?”, he asked. Still drowning in confusion, I looked at my grandpa and laughed while I answered his question. “I consider myself being both, white and black.” The man goes on… “Oh, so you can be white one day and black another?”

At this point I am just wondering, “why all the questions?” “What does it matter?” and quite frankly, “Who cares?” I could not believe how interested this man was in questioning my race!

I mentioned somehow in conversation about my husband, and the man even had something to say about my husband being black. Is it really that amazing and interesting that two people of different races marry and live happily ever after together. It’s 2013 “WHAT’S THE BIG DEAL?” Love knows no color.

The people kept conversing with my grandpa. Not once did they even tell us who they were. After they left, I asked my grandpa if he even knew the people or had at least saw them before and he knew just as much about them as we did. lol

Apparently the were interested in an abandoned house that is directly across the street from my grandpa. So, I guess my grandpa was the victim for conversation since he just so happened to be outside when they were checking the house across the street out. They probably wanted to ask some questions about previous owners and that kind of stuff. Nine times out of ten, my grandpa being the nosey person he is saw people snooping around across the street and he went outside to find out what they were doing. lol

The moral of my story/experience:  “Why does society attempt to bully mixed individuals into picking and choosing one race over another? ”  I simply can not imagine one dropping myself with either race, white or black. That would involve completely disregarding one of my parents. There’s no way I could be comfortable with myself by doing that. It really saddens me when I discuss with other biracial individuals and they one drop themselves, all based on societies perception of them. Simply because one’s skin may be darker, resulting in looking more black than white. People then identify with whatever society classifies them as. For example, our president. “The first black president?” or, “The First Biracial President?”

Wake up on this issue people and stop falling into societies black hole of ignorance!

TTYL,

Erica

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Many minorities and interracial couples have experienced the issue of racial profiling from the police. Are all minorities perceived as suspicious?Image

Officer, what did we do wrong?

Citizens use to look to law enforcement for a sense of security. Have times changed? In most recent years there has been a rapid increase in racial profiling by law enforcement officials.

Being married to an African- American male and being Biracial, myself, my husband and I have had our share of experiences. Living near the Nations capital, in a predominately African-American area, all African-Americans are racially profiled.

Law Enforcement officers look for African-American males, driving with tinted windows as a target for “suspected” thugs. They racially profile African-American men, based on those two key details.

My husband and I were out riding around back in March, when we got pulled over. Back up was called. I suppose we looked suspicious, a young “black” male, “white” female, tinted windows?? We were questioned about our relationship. Once the officers were informed that we were husband and wife, they were surprised. Not once did they mention anything about my husbands tint being too dark. The only petty thing they could say that their reason for pulling us over with was for a random traffic stop and because we didn’t have tags on the front of our car. Only recently our state has been enforcing the requirement of front plates.

Was it probable cause for us to be pulled over because of race? Did the officers believe that they would of found more fault in us, other than not having front plates?

Is it that strange or unbelievable that two people can be married of the opposite race?

Racial Profiling MUST end!

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WordPress,

 

It seems like forever since I posted here on Biraciality. I know I must rebound from this writers block and

find some inspiration. I miss from blogging about my opinions and thoughts after listening to Mixed Chicks Chat and after reading racially targeted articles online. I have been extremely busy in life taking care of my family, pursing my career both, academically and through work.

I must set time out to tend to my blog and reconnect with my Mixed Community. Please leave a comment with an update of how you are doing. Continue to check back for updates.

Love & Peace,

Erica

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ImageThroughout my entire life, in my African-American family, there has been an obsession over good hair. If you had “good” hair you were accepted. Any signs of “naps” resulted in negativity and a sense of no acceptance. It’s all about who is the lightest and who has the most non-kinkiest hair. If you can run your fingers through your hair, no problem. Even if you can just simply wash your hair and go, no perm or relaxer, you were accepted.

It’s sad to say that there is racism within the African-American community. Not even my fathers Caucasian side of the family is racist or non accepting, as oppose to my African-American side. Society has molded and idolized what beauty is through television and advertisement. Whether it’s the fair skin, blue eyes, and healthy hair “non-nappy”.

What is good hair, bad hair, and nappy hair?

-Good hair is healthy hair. Your hair doesn’t have to be straight to be good hair. As long as your hair is healthy, it is good hair! Your can have the most beautiful, well defined curls, kinks and all and your hair would be good and healthy. The healthiness of your hair is what is most important!

-Bad hair is untreated, and unhealthy hair. Whether you don’t shampoo or condition your hair, which causes damage from hair breakage. This can result in hair lost. It is imperative to take care of your hair and care for it.

-Nappy hair is unmanageable hair, but there is no reason why nappy hair is considered bad hair. If it is healthy then it is good hair.

Love what God has blesses you with. Embrace both, your inner and outer beauty. You are one of a kind. Let no one but “yourself” define your beauty and worth.

xo,

Erica

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Growing up I always felt like no one understood me or could to relate to me. I had one friend that I met that was also biracial but I felt that it was still something that separated us. In my opinion she identifies more with her black side, unlike me who feels like I am equally both black and white. It was hard not having someone who could share the same experiences with you. During the time I began blogging there weren’t many sites for biracials to share and speak out on their experience.

I reached an epiphany when I discovered Tiffany Jones youtube channel and wordpress blog, Mulatto Diaries. For once I found a stranger who shared the same experience and had some of the same feelings toward racial issues as me. Watching her videos made me feel like she was a friend to me. Someone who spoke up and spoke out to those biracial individuals with no voice. At the time and even now the resources available for biracials are limited. The biracial community is small. I encourage others to create a blog of sort to speak out to others. I remember feeling lonely as if no one shared the same Biracial experiences with me until finding Tiffany Jones vlogs & blog. The small and limited biracial community encouraged me to write because I wanted to leave footprints on the internet for young biracials that may feel lost and alone. I write down my opinions and personal experience so the lost ones can feel found.

Through personal growth I have come to realize that despite culture and races separating us we are more alike than ever. As different as we all may feel, we are alike. We are human. We eat, sleep, cry, smile and breathe all the same.

Until next time . . .

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